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Why do you stay faithful?

Someone remarked the other day that his spouse will kill him if he cheated on her and I wonder how many people remain faithful not out of choice or for religious reasons but because they are scared about what will happen to them if they do cross that line.

Liewe Heksie: I specifically asked for non-religious reasons because in a way, religious reasons are also fear of some kind - fear of being punished for sinning.

Dogma: I like your answer and it seems like just about everyone agrees that if you also respect your partner, you will not cheat.

Maybe I should have said "besides" religious reasons. It's easy to say "because the Bible says so" or "because God says so". What happens if your religions falls by the way side?
66 mths ago

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Honestly, I think it may just be a figure of speech....I think any self respecting man wouldn't cross the line if his wife and children meant anything to him at all. Crossing the line doesn't necessarily damage your relationship with your loved ones, the guilt of the act eats away at your inner being, you may lose the trust your spouse has for you, you may hurt all your loved ones, but ultimately, you are the one getting hurt by what you have done to yourself, disrespecting everything you love and believe in.

66 mths ago

Answers -

Because I can.

66 mths ago

I love my husband and my children. And I made a promise to him and God to be faithful to him the day I married him.

66 mths ago

I stay faithfull cause only a donkey bump his head twice.

66 mths ago

cause it feels good, glad to hear u bumped ur haed atleast once just me r isit ek

66 mths ago

Cos i Love my wife and she gives me everything i could want......which leads ot the question of what woudl another woman be able to give me which my wife isnt or cant give me........

66 mths ago

First of all it is not in my nature to be unfaithful, also it really is not worth the effort and the consequences that follow. And I love my man.

Source: Just me

66 mths ago

Because I REALLY love my husband and he makes me very happy. He has never given me a reason to even think about cheating!

66 mths ago

My man has given me no reason not to be :) And I know he is faithful to me

66 mths ago

Because I adore my family unit and while I may think that some other guys are nice looking, there is nothing out there worth me losing my family for, besides neither Goerge Clooney nor Brad Pitt have come knocking on my door yet ;)

66 mths ago

I hate answering a question by just saying .... is right but in this case I have to. Dogma is right. He said it perfectly.

66 mths ago

Simply cause I want to, I love my hubs with all in me. No desire whatsoever to even think of not be faithful to him.

66 mths ago

Because I love and respect my fiance completely. I would not be happy if he were unfaithful, and so I give TO him that which I expect FROM him. To me, this is not even up for consideration or debate. It simply IS.

66 mths ago

Cause I love my husband and daughter and the family we have created together. All my free time goes to them and I would not even have time to have an affair. And all the drama that comes with it. And I also know from others experience that even though it might be an affair, one party will think that they have fallen deeply in love and start making demands and threats at the other family. Personal opinion - if you are the mistress or the other man you have no right to make demands (leave them, marry me etc), its an affair not a relationship. I just love my hubby too much and actualy after all these years still prefer spending time with him above any other adult, we still have fun and enjoy each other company.

66 mths ago

Im not faithful.Women are too beautiful to resist.

66 mths ago

I stay faithful because I love and respect my husband. Can't imagine leaving someones bed, going home and acting as if nothing has happened. I don't think my husband would beat me if I cheated, he is not the sort who uses violence against women, he would simply pack his bags and leave - or pack my bags and put them in my car.

66 mths ago

I made a choice to love my wife and stay faithfull to her. As a man I stand by my choices. Love shouldn't just be a feeling, as feelings change so easily.I t is a choice that should be made. Love like that can never be broken and that choice can only be changed when the other party is unfaithfull.

66 mths ago

I simply could not imagine being with anyone but my partner . Its not about the consequences of being found out , or the hurt or the disrespect , I don't understand why anyone would want to have an intimate encounter with someone other than the person they love. If you don't love or respect your partner anymore , move on , cheating is just not an option for me.

66 mths ago

Shoe, I really don’t have time for someone else, my wife really keep me to busy at home!!!!!!!!!!

66 mths ago

The problem does not come in the killing but what if it leaves you a vegetable lying in bed till Kingdom come! And that same person must nurse you knowing what you did or tried to do!

66 mths ago

I love my partner dearly and he gives me everything I want in life. Respect, love, security ect. He is not only my partner but my friend. I have no need to cheat, its a waste of time and people who cheat have no respect for themselves nor their families. It takes two to make a relationship perfect and work. One day when you are both wrinkled and old, you can sit hand hold hands and say "We did good"

66 mths ago

Its my privelage to have her and to keep her.

66 mths ago

I believe it has to do with self respect and at the end of the day you have to answer to yourself. When you die your strongest emotion will be the guilt you are going to feel towards everybody that you treated badly or harmed in any way.

66 mths ago

I stay faithful because I love my husband and I can not imagine my life with someone else. He is my soulmate. Why can't we say anything religous? God gave him to me, and for that I thank him so much!!

66 mths ago

I could never cheat on my partner. It could never ever be worth it. There's nobody that could compare to him.

66 mths ago

One should stay faithful not for the fear of what might happen if you are not, or what ppl will say, but because you LOVE the person you are with, and no one else. Any self-respecting person wouldn't be intimate in any way with someone they dodn't love, and if you made the right decision when you got married, your spouse will be the only person that you love, for the rest of your married lives. Should you start to feel attracted to other ppl, you should let your spouse know, and rather end the relationship, as you have obviously made a HUGE mistake.

66 mths ago

Because it is completely incomprehensible and unthinkable to ever hurt this man whom God gave to me. I cherish and love him will all my being. My love and blind devotion is returned 100-fold. I am one of the most loved women in the world. I know that he would give his life for me, as I would for him. When I see him, my face lights up, and my eyes shine, tears pour down my cheeks, because out of so many, he chose me, and I could never, never hurt him....not even a little bit. He is and will remain the man of my dreams. My darling, dearest Ben. He is completely devoted to me.....this I kow beyond a doubt.

Source: Alicia

66 mths ago

Because I am selfish!!!

66 mths ago

because of one simple reason - I love him with my heart and soul! Could never hurt him!

66 mths ago

Dogma's answer just blows me away. I wish all men felt that way. Respect, respect, respect. Some men trivialise and objectify women. I often want to say to them "How would you feel if another man said something like you've just said, to your sister or your mother". They get caught up in the moment and forget that the person they are disrespecting is some other person's sister or mother. It causes so much suffering in the world.

66 mths ago

A promise you make is a promise you keep. The day you stood in front of the church that is what you did. You are not only lying to your partner, you are lying to your family, friends, kids etc

66 mths ago

What shall it benefit me to be unfaithful? Someone I chose to share my life with. Someone I chose to be the Father to our sons. Some one who respects me 365 days a year. A fantastic Father figure wonderful business partner a wonderful lover a good provider. A person that most of my friends shall kill for to have as a husband. If I wanted to be running around with every man in town why on earth shall I have bound myself to one person. What do you consider having an affair as? We have both taken friends of the opposite sex to lunch/dinner on our own he is welcome if one of his woman friends come to town to go to lunch/dinner with them I do the same. We never have had the need the need to jump into any one else's bed. Trust is something you have in your instinct you know when some is being unfaithful to you or not. Would my husband kill me or smack me if I had an affair know I do not think so it would crush him. Just the same as it would crush me.

66 mths ago

To cheat is human, to forgive, divine. Anyone can cheat, it takes will power and self respect to contain what is very often a natural human impulse. The problem with cheating is the deception and possible health risk it introduces into your relationship with someone you should love enough to never want to hurt. I stay faithful because of my inherent integrity. This is a commitment to myself first and foremost. If I do not respect and love my partner enough to honour their emotional and physical health, then I would honour my own moral code and leave.

66 mths ago

I am not faithful in the traditional sense of the word, but I will never break faith by lying because I love my husband. Lying would just hurt him and I couldn't bear to knowingly do that to him.

66 mths ago

Wow...so far I am the last one to answer and my Hubby was the first one to answer. When I close my eyes, all I see is WW and our kids. When I open my eyes, all I see is WW and our kids. How can I go wrong? I stay faithful because I can't se my life with anybody else. I can't see myself getting "use" to anybody else. He makes me complete, so why would I be looking for somebody else? I love him with such intence that nothing else makes sence....not even thinking off some one else. So my answer to your question is: "I stay faithfull cause my Husband makes me complete"

66 mths ago

I stay faithfull because I am really not interested in anyone else beside my husband!

66 mths ago

I am always faithful.

66 mths ago

because i expect my partner to be faithfull too

66 mths ago

First, let me remark that this is the question with the most reponses I have ever seen, and it is only one day old as I write this! I feel that once you have agreed to a steady relationship or marriage, you have to abide by this. Don't the community expect it from you? Don't eveybody need to have a conscience? Alas, apparently not.

66 mths ago

Sex drive is a God given gift which comes with responsibility. Modern society have shown that majority marry for all the wrong reasons. There is no more a period (courtship) where one get to know their life partner. Getting married under adverse conditions is a recipe for disaster. Getting to really love someone for their personality is a lost goal. There will always be more beautiful people than your parner, issues to sort out, arguments to contend with and communication breakdowns. Ounce the foundation is not laid properly, any small problem will get one or both of the partners to seek refuge somwhere else otherwise faithful really and truly means having love and confidence in each other.

66 mths ago

the reason why you should stay faithful is because you want to and you love your partner. if you cheat it means you are not committed or serious about your relationship, so you are also cheating yourself in the process

66 mths ago

The reason I stay faithful is not of choice, being afraid or religious reasons. It is because by nature I am faithful that is the way I was born, who I am, I cannot change that. Like people who by nature cheat and they can't help themselves.

65 mths ago

Dogma's answer is the best by far. A husband was once unfaithful to his wife. She never left him, but instead she flipped a one rand coin and said to him "every time you see this coin, be reminded of what you did to me." She then framed the one rand coin and hung it on the wall in their house. Every time some one visited and asked them what the framed one rand was for? The wife's answer was simply, 'ask my husbnd, he knows.' The husband apparently ended up in a mental institute. The guilt ate at him and literally started driving him insane. His wife was clever, and psychologically abused him with but a one rand coin. I LOVE IT!

Source: My mother.

65 mths ago

Cause I love her and I am scared of God...

65 mths ago

It might be respect and love and everything said above here, but for me, all I know is, he makes me so happy in every part of my being that I have no inclination at all to cheat.

65 mths ago

Like a TV license - it's the right thing to do, and causes untold misery and suffering if you don't.

65 mths ago

I madea mistake once in my life!!! That was the last time! I saw what it did to me, to my friends and to her!! I made a promise to myself myself that I will never do it again!!! I have not done it again!! It is just wrong, you trust that other person just as much as they trust you!! It is not the right thing to do when you chaet on someone!! It is a mental thing, you have to decide for yourself!! Why do I stay faithfull!? Beacause of personal experience of being cheated on and doing it once in my life also!

Source: Personal experience and a lot of pain!

65 mths ago

I believe in treating people as you would have them treat you. I love my wife and my Kids, so why would I want to Jeopardize loosing that. My daughter has a strong Personality, (although she is only 3) because of BOTH parents. Now I must risk all of this for a "Fling" ????........""don't think so"" :)))))

65 mths ago

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