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Im a female and my married female friend just kissed me in a intimate way and i kissed her back at that moment...
Since we kissed im having this picture of me & her and it sort of excites me....Is this normal?We have never discussed it since it happened.....Is it normal? If we continue kissing does it mean we are cheating on our husbands and does it mean we are Straight and Lesbian at the same time?Pls help
2 wks ago
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Sexual orientation is not an absolute: you are not straight OR gay. In fact you should think of it as a graduated mark on a scale from 0 (straight) to 6 (gay). We are all on that scale somewhere and as we develop the exact location may move. So, for example, you may be a 2.5 - more straight than gay but not quite bisexual and definitely not gay. Despite the cavalier assurances that your hubbie may be excited at the prospect of you getting jiggy with another woman bear in mind that it is sexual encounter and that you are being unfaithful. Some men enjoy watching their wives having sex with other men -'strue - and perhaps more may enjoy watching and participating while their wives have sex with other women. But some men will object, vehemently, as they will quite rightly regard it as adultery. The sex of the cheating partner is irrelevant. I see you are being encouraged to forge ahead with, ahem, gay abandon. I recommend extreme caution. Perhaps the kiss was exciting simply because of the novelty and because of the inherent danger associated with doing taboo stuff. Please consider the consequences very carefully: what will it mean to you if you are bi-sexual? Or gay? How will this affect your marriage? Are you genuinely interested? Or (shudder at the crude word) bi-curious? I experimented and at the time thought I was bi, then gay, then naughty, then stupid, then curious but eventually I realised I was exploring boundaries in a healthy way as I was not in a relationship with anyone else at the time. Please consider going to chat to a psychologist to explore your this more fully (NOT to get cured or treated in any way) but simply to be guided by a professional thorough some potentially life-changing territory and emotions. As the old maps said at the end on of the chartered world: Here Be Dragons. Enjoy, Darlin', enjoy.
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To me there is nothing wrong in a woman exploring her own sexuality at all. That is merely what you are doing. All the better that it is a friend of yours and not some stranger. Kissing a woman intimately like that is a very erotic experience indeed. Don't stress about what happened or what might still happen between the two of you. Just take things as they come. Good luck and enjoy!
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Since I read your question I'm having this picture of you and her and it sort of excites me.... Is this normal? LOL Damn right it is! Kissing is one thing, taking it further is another. Technically cheating is cheating but I'm not sure I would mind so much if my partner cheated with another woman. There's those who'll crucify me for saying this but somehow it's just not the same. Is it? Yes it probably is. Cheating is bad. Don't do it. The End.
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Yes !! Your husbands might become aroused to hear of this. No, your not turning Gay. You'll probably find that she pleases you more though, knowing exactly how things feel.
Source: Koekstamp en Giggel - nothing wrong with it !
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well yes it is cheating, but i'm sure your husbands would'nt mind, that would make your'll bi sexual
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If you kiss a man or women, kissing is kissing and you are married, so sorry love if he doesn't know, it cheating.
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I can't give an informed answer until you Spaces me with much more detail. Much, much more detail. Even better, photos if you took any. Sorry, I'm just fooling. I guess it does mean you're cheating (would you be happy if your husband was kissing this friend, or another man?) I doubt it means that you're lesbian of bi, just curious. Sometimes the lines of friendship can get blurred.
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I would kick the crapola out of my mate if he so much as looked at me with pouted lips
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If you are married and you kiss ANYONE but your spouse intimately, you are cheating. Period.
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You are not to blame, she kissed you and you were overwhelmed by her actions. So you are the victim here, haaa haa..
Your husband will just have to understand "if you tell him, which I suggest you dnt as that will get him thinking of a threesome"...
As the saying goes dnt kiss and tell
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It is totally part of exploring your sexuality! Just dont take it past kissing methinks. And people who are straight and lesbian at the same time are called Bi-Sexual thought I don't think you would fall into that category unless you want to go kissing other women and getting it on with them! So no worries!
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Absolutely nothing wrong with it at all. You have an attraction to each other and I'm sure your husbands will understand IF you're open to them about it. If the two of you sneak off to do stuff, it is cheating. I will gladly offer my vast knowledge in womanly passion and my video camera should you require so.
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the lips are a very sensitive organ. it is natural that you'll become aroused and thinking of it makes you excited. nothing wrong with that..... now i am getting excited.
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This realy sounds so intresting in my mind, LMAO!! I can see the picture of you two kissing, damn what's next, no!! STOP RIGHT THERE!!!! Don't go feither because you will make me HORNY!!!!
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Coming from a gay person - yes you are cheating on your husbands. I have heard that this "behaviour" is not unnatural within the straight circles of married ladies who are at home. Some ladies "blossom" late in live, it is siad that women in their late 30 tend to come out and realise that they are gay. Both you and your friend need to chatt about your intermate kiss and see where it is heading before you all get hurt.
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Whatever floats your boat darling..just enjoy. You only live once, and yes, I'd love to watch too. Seriously, you are what is called bi curious. Plenty of people of both genders do it..you'll find out soon enough.
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I would suggest that you talk to her in a public place... Then you should tell your husbands. Protect both of your hearts an dyour husbans as well. Do ruin a friendship!
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Continue kissing?? I doubt whether it will end at just kissing and then you will join the ranks of cheaters - cheating with a male or a female is exactly the same.
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